How Parents Get Caught Up in Their Children's Identities

Another great quote from Andrew Solomon’s Far From the Tree:

“My mother didn’t want me to be gay because she thought it wouldn’t be the happiest course for me, but equally, she didn’t like the image of herself as the mother of a gay son. The problem wasn’t that she wanted to control my life—although she did, like most parents, genuinely believe that her way of being happy was the best way of being happy. The problem was that she wanted to control her life, and it was her life as the mother of a homosexual that she wished to alter. Unfortunately, there was no way for her to fix her problem without involving me.”

Now I see why it bothers my parents so much that I’m no longer a Republican.

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